Knowing why we do what we do is what keeps us going when it’s not easy.
When motivating your teen (or yourself), it’s helpful to know the two different types of motivation.
Intrinsic motivation comes internally from a desire for satisfaction and accomplishment.
Extrinsic motivation is the result of any pending outside reward or consequence.
Both intrinsic and extrinsic serve there purpose and have a place.
Extrinsic motivation can be very useful for trivial tasks that are of little interest. Intrinsic motivation builds self-worth and the perserverance to overcome obstacles.
Together, the two forms are most powerful, although it’s harder to instill intrinsic motivation. Encourage your child’s internall drive with purposeful conversation and modeling the behavior yourself.
Ask your teen about why they might want a particular grade or accomplishment. Continue to ask why until you get to the heart of their reason. Help them identify what they’ve learned after a challenge or success. Discuss how they’d like to grow in the future, what they are curious about and what they enjoy.
Demonstrate your desire to complete challenges out of curiosity and an eagerness to learn. Show them when you’ve been challenged, that you still enjoyed the process and what you’ve gained from it.
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