Your teenager is developing their self-image. As a parent, you play a crucial role in aiding that development.
Think back to when you were growing up? What things did your parents repeatedly tell you about yourself? How did those comments affect your self image?
I used to believe I was inherently messy because my mom often commented on my inability to keep a clean room. Although small, it is a powerful example, because I can see how that belief affected my efforts toward a clean house for years. I thought, “There’s no use trying because I’m always going to be messy.”
The things you say about your teen are options you are offering them to believe about themselves. Be intentional. How often are you recognizing their strengths? What do you admire about them? What do you hope they believe about themselves?
Take a few minutes to make a list of compliments you want to give each of your children, and see how many you can naturally give each day.